More to Love

It was like watching people recite lines from my journals and past thoughts, and as intriguing as it was, there was something so sad and pathetic about this new reality show on Fox. "The Bachelor" producer decided to put together a version of that show that was all about plus-sized women, and it was almost like watching a train wreck. At first glance, I thought, "Wow. This could be a really good way to help people understand that overweight women really are beautiful and are just as fun and intelligent and desirable as minus-sized women."

But Jake put it perfectly when he said that he can't watch any more episodes because it is just too depressing. These women are so desperate and sad! I don't think a single one has ever had a boyfriend, and several of them said they've never even been on a date in their lives (and these are mid-twenties to mid-thirties women). After they'd met him for a total of about 30 seconds, many of the women had already decided that if he proposed to them they would say yes.

Five of them had to go home after last night's show, and they were sobbing because, as they put it, their hopes to find love were over. They each said that they had used this as sort of their last big push before giving up hope of ever dating. Now, you might think to yourself, "Get over it! There are other guys out there, and reality tv isn't the place you want to find your match, anyway." But speaking as one who's been there, I can tell you that it isn't so easy. It's so hard when you know the reason you don't ever get asked out on a date is because you don't look right. Luckily, I found a guy who loves me how I am, not despite how I am--but it took until I was 25 (which in Mormondom can often seem like old maid age).

Is it necessary to list every woman's height, weight, and age every single time she is on the screen? We can all see she's plus-sized. They would never do that on the regular Bachelor shows... The other thing is that all of their interview questions with the women are about their weight and how it has affected their lives. Painful, and repetitive, answers don't make for much of a joyful experience as a viewer.

Although I think the idea of the show is awesome, and although I can relate to many of their fears and frustrations, it would be heart-wrenching to have to watch more and more of them get kicked off each week, dreams and hopes shattered. I don't like that kind of reality....